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Why should you keep divorce negativity hidden from your kids?

| Dec 28, 2016 | Family Law |

Wisconsin residents like yourself who have split up with their significant other may be left with a myriad of emotions to sort through. Anger, grief, irritation: they may not be pretty emotions, but it’s more important now than ever to make sure there’s a distinct barrier between you as the parent, and your children.

Why exactly should you make this distinction? It’s because according to the Huffington Post, something you consider just a little venting could actually turn into a form of abusive behavior toward your child without you even intending for things to be that way. The negativity that you hold toward your other spouse is something that your child could pick up on, especially if you discuss it openly or insult your ex in front of them. Kids pick up on things quickly, and you are their role model.

What does this mean? Basically, if they see that you are freezing out your ex, they might do the same, even if they might not have necessarily felt that way without your influence. The potential abusive behavior comes into play if your complaints or insults become hostile aggressive parenting, or HAP. The intentional attempt to turn a child against one of their parents can be considered emotionally and mentally abusive, and even unintentional actions that can sour their perspective or sway their opinions can have a negative long-term impact on them and their potential familial relationships.

In essence, while being open and honest is important to a degree, it is also important for you to be able to maintain separation where necessary. It may make the situation easier for both you and your child to deal with.