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Maintain sanity when co-parenting with a toxic person

| Nov 20, 2019 | Family Law |

Some people are dealing with a difficult ex-spouse who brings unwanted drama, bad mouthing, manipulation and false accusations to the table every time discussions about the children need to take place. Wisconsin residents who are dealing with a toxic co-parent may be interested in learning about some ways that they can maintain their sanity while they look out for the best interests of their children.

Every time a person has an interaction with a toxic co-parent, they need to remember why the interaction has to take place and focus on that. These interactions are about parenting; they are not about hashing out old problems in the marriage. When a person can put the needs of their children first without focusing on all of the things their ex needs to change, they will be able to maintain a calm temperament.

The way a person engages with an ex-spouse can be controlled. Not everything needs a reaction or a response. Of course, co-parents need to be on hand in case an emergency arises with the children. However, it is usually best to establish a delay time for responding to a toxic ex. This will allow a person to think out how they will respond as opposed to just reacting emotionally.

It is helpful to recognize that there are certain unhealthy dynamics or triggers that can cause a situation to easily get out of control. Thinking ahead about these triggers and then steering the conversation in a healthier direction can be helpful.

No matter how hard a person tries to maintain an even and calm temperament, they may find that it is impossible to work with a toxic co-parent. Some parents decide to turn to a family law attorney. An attorney may be able to provide information about family legal issues, child support and adjusting a current custody decision.