You love your children, and you want what’s best for them following your divorce. You and your spouse have both been on the same page over most things, but when it comes to child custody, it’s like you’re at a standstill. Neither of you wants to split up your time with the kids, and yet you both want to do what’s right.
In cases like yours, it’s important for you both to sit down and think through this situation while in a calm state of mind. Custody arrangements can be hard to come up with, but if you look at the situation practically, you’ll find somewhere to start.
For example, will you need to increase your workload? Will you have to be at work for four days a week and be unable to care for your child during that time? Who’s available when your child gets off school? Who can attend events? Start asking those questions, and you’ll be able to start making notes about when you are or are not available and how that affects the amount of custody time you can take on.
Another thing that helps many parents is to know that this situation doesn’t need to last forever. This custody schedule might be perfect for this school year but needs to be adjusted for the summer or for the next year when your child graduates to the next school.
Be patient, draw up a schedule of your responsibilities and compare it to your spouse’s. If you can’t find a way to start from there, you may want to reach out to your attorney for more support.