Divorce, though sometimes necessary, can be an emotionally taxing process. The decision to end a marriage can sometimes lead to feelings of fear or insecurity, especially if the relationship had elements of emotional or physical abuse.
According to the Wisconsin Department of Justice, there were over 33,000 reported cases of domestic abuse in 2018. It is a situation no one should have to endure. The safety of you and your loved ones becomes paramount in such times. But where do you turn, and what steps can you take if you feel threatened or unsafe at home after deciding to end the union?
Find a safe space
If tensions rise and you believe that staying at home poses a risk, seek refuge with friends or family members. Trusted individuals can offer not only a safe place to stay but emotional support as well. Remember, it is essential to ensure that your chosen location is one where your spouse would not immediately look for you or pose further threats.
Seek support from local organizations
Wisconsin has several shelters and organizations dedicated to assisting individuals in situations of domestic strife or potential danger. These shelters can provide you with a secure place to stay, along with resources and counseling services to help you navigate your next steps.
Additionally, many organizations, both government-run and nonprofit, can offer assistance, counseling and resources. Engaging with these entities can provide you with the tools and information needed to navigate this challenging time safely.
Document any threats or incidents
Should you face threats or actual incidents of violence, it is important to document them. This might mean taking photos of physical injuries, saving threatening messages or even writing down the details of threatening conversations. This documentation could be helpful if you ever need to show proof of your situation.
Establish a safety plan
A safety plan outlines the steps you will take if a crisis occurs. This can include a list of essential items to take with you (like important documents, medications and a change of clothes), locations of safe places you can go and people you can call upon for help. Regularly review and update your plan as circumstances change.
Change locks and upgrade security
If you remain in your home but your spouse moves out, consider changing the locks and possibly investing in a security system. The added layer of security can give you peace of mind and an added layer of protection.
Your safety and well-being should always come first. If you are in Wisconsin and find yourself feeling unsafe after filing for divorce, take immediate steps to secure your safety and reach out for help. Remember, you are not alone, and there are many out there willing and ready to help.
